Hello Travellers!
My conversations with my friends lead to many revelations and even new train of thoughts.
A few days ago I had a conversation about relationships (what's new) and I started wondering if soul mates really do exist. It is sad because I have been holding on to the belief that he was the one for me but then it crashed altogether. So here I am walking down the path of single-hood. Hey, I am not complaining! I still love myself as much as I did before AND I am enjoying my life. It is just a question that we ask ourselves sometimes and that question may never be answered. Who knows?
This was bugging me the whole time. Am I doing it right?
Finding my soul mate is a lot harder than it seems. The thing is, you will never know until the day vows are exchanged and rings worn. Maybe I am taking this too seriously. On the other hand, nothing can be more serious than love itself.
And then I thought, it may not be that much of a crime to love from within the heart and fully but not predict the ending like I always want to. You know how it is. We, girls, always over-think matters because we are so afraid of giving our hearts away before we find our Prince Charming. I can't say that men are the same or otherwise because I have never been one. So, would it be possible to love and not expect anything in return? After all, love is just as simple as giving. Maybe I should learn to be happy and love freely. Just to enjoy life as it comes and the people that come along on the way instead of desiring that one man that will sweep me away to eternity.
No, I am not turning into a hippie.
And no, I don't mean love freely, physically.
Just love out of the heart.
Weren't we born to love anyway?
Yes, I did entitle this post as Soul mate vs. ?
Think about it. Maybe love isn't as complicated as we make it to seem. '?' can be anybody that comes along the way and if we keep expecting a fairy tale, we will never truly love the ones that pass our way.
So, dear soul mate,
whoever you are,
if you are reading this,
I hope that somehow, in the best of time, we will meet and know that it is meant to be even without much thinking because I am tired of loving out of expectation and being so fragile in all my fears.
But if I change my mind like I always do, I'll write you another note.
Live to Love
Yours Truly.
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Judgement Falls
Hello Travellers!
Today is Sunday. Yes, Church day for me.
Sitting in church listening, I wondered about the same question many people often wonder about. Do we ever bring Christianity outdoors or is it just something we confine within the four walls on Sunday mornings?
As generic of a question as it may sound like, I really wonder. I'm not talking about fanaticalness about this religion but just the core of doing what is written. We all know what's written in the Book of Life. If it is truly the Book of Life, how come we don't practice what we preach?
Let's just break it down to the basics. Lesson 101. Love, in my opinion is a big deal in Christianity. If it wasn't for love, we wouldn't be here talking about this. If it wasn't for Jesus dying out of love, there wouldn't be something to talk about. But what is love?
Love isn't accentuating the wrongs of others but helping them in silence. How can a person preach love and then condemn the lost ones? No, there shouldn't ever be a restatement of how bad this person was or how sinful that person is.
Yet, after rethinking all of the above, don't we make judgments everyday? It is through these judgments that we learn how to live life better. For example, if you betray a friend and lose her, you'd learn never to do that again. Or when in love you get tricked or are treated unwell. You will form a judgment that trust is something earned and shouldn't be given away so easily. Those are all judgments too. So, how do you distinguish one from the other? It is close to being impossible.
Still, we have to strive to love from the heart and not merely the lips. There are so many dying people out there. So many wounded and broken. And more that are emotionally hurt. What are we doing to them? We are only casting them away to the vultures. Isn't that selfish?
Take time to take love to its maximum. Silently. Nobody needs to know the deed or your opinion about the situation. Love is action.
So take time to take church outdoors all week. Maybe somebody will feel the love and with that, you have changed the world.
Yours Truly.
Today is Sunday. Yes, Church day for me.
Sitting in church listening, I wondered about the same question many people often wonder about. Do we ever bring Christianity outdoors or is it just something we confine within the four walls on Sunday mornings?
As generic of a question as it may sound like, I really wonder. I'm not talking about fanaticalness about this religion but just the core of doing what is written. We all know what's written in the Book of Life. If it is truly the Book of Life, how come we don't practice what we preach?
Let's just break it down to the basics. Lesson 101. Love, in my opinion is a big deal in Christianity. If it wasn't for love, we wouldn't be here talking about this. If it wasn't for Jesus dying out of love, there wouldn't be something to talk about. But what is love?
Love isn't accentuating the wrongs of others but helping them in silence. How can a person preach love and then condemn the lost ones? No, there shouldn't ever be a restatement of how bad this person was or how sinful that person is.
Yet, after rethinking all of the above, don't we make judgments everyday? It is through these judgments that we learn how to live life better. For example, if you betray a friend and lose her, you'd learn never to do that again. Or when in love you get tricked or are treated unwell. You will form a judgment that trust is something earned and shouldn't be given away so easily. Those are all judgments too. So, how do you distinguish one from the other? It is close to being impossible.
Still, we have to strive to love from the heart and not merely the lips. There are so many dying people out there. So many wounded and broken. And more that are emotionally hurt. What are we doing to them? We are only casting them away to the vultures. Isn't that selfish?
Take time to take love to its maximum. Silently. Nobody needs to know the deed or your opinion about the situation. Love is action.
So take time to take church outdoors all week. Maybe somebody will feel the love and with that, you have changed the world.
Yours Truly.
I Miss You
Hello Travellers!
It is Sunday already and thus marks the first week of my coming home. I figured that by this time, I would be permitted to write about the things I miss from the United States of America.
No, its not that bad of a country.
Yes, I liked it.
No, they don't ride wagons in Kansas.
Here are the top ten things I miss right off the top of my head. I'm sure that the list will add on in time.
1. The crazy amount of good cheese in every meal (How much is too much?)
2. Burger Station and all its grease
3. Friends with deadly sense of sarcasm that fits mine
4. Free movies and people who love criticizing movies, like me.
5. Pandora.com and unbanned music
6. Walmart in all its glory
7. Wide roads and slow consistent drivers
8. My crazy awesome friends. They come in different colours.
9. Playing the piano at Biederman's every weekend. This does include the backache and sleepiness that comes from sitting at the piano for 2 hours straight.
10. Sonic drinks and Braum's limeade. America's great way of wasting the extra pennies in your pocket.
More to come, I am certain.
Yours Truly.
It is Sunday already and thus marks the first week of my coming home. I figured that by this time, I would be permitted to write about the things I miss from the United States of America.
No, its not that bad of a country.
Yes, I liked it.
No, they don't ride wagons in Kansas.
Here are the top ten things I miss right off the top of my head. I'm sure that the list will add on in time.
1. The crazy amount of good cheese in every meal (How much is too much?)
2. Burger Station and all its grease
3. Friends with deadly sense of sarcasm that fits mine
4. Free movies and people who love criticizing movies, like me.
5. Pandora.com and unbanned music
6. Walmart in all its glory
7. Wide roads and slow consistent drivers
8. My crazy awesome friends. They come in different colours.
9. Playing the piano at Biederman's every weekend. This does include the backache and sleepiness that comes from sitting at the piano for 2 hours straight.
10. Sonic drinks and Braum's limeade. America's great way of wasting the extra pennies in your pocket.
More to come, I am certain.
Yours Truly.
Inspired by Words
Hello Travellers!
I was listening to Natasha Beddingfield on my mp3 player and was baffled by the brilliance of her word choice. She is such an inspiring song writer and an amazing singer. Just listening to the words of her songs make me grin and chuckle to myself, which is probably creepy in some ways to the people around me that are watching. What can I say? That woman is a gift from above.
I feel so complete just listening to her songs because she puts so much into her art and it shows. The words she uses are powerful and brilliant, just like I've mentioned already. In my opinion, words are the soul of music and being a bad lyricist, I really struggle to make myself better in that sense. It is really difficult to portray a feeling or a philosophy in words that would cause others to feel the same.
The one thing that makes Natasha a killer song writer is her ability to manipulate words, making them words of wisdom and positivity. She has so much philosophy in her songs which makes them heavy and deep. You could view some of her lyrics in songs like 'Size Matters' or her latest song 'Strip Me'. Catchy words to catch the public but turning them inside out makes them really stick out. This just inspires me to write more songs that can bring positive changes to the world around me. If there was anything that I wanted accomplished in this life, I would want to change the world.
Coming back to Natasha, she is an amazing vocalist altogether. If you have not had a chance to listen to her, I'd encourage you to purchase her songs on Itunes or even check her out on Youtube. She is very inspiring and uplifting in so many ways. The world needs more people like her.
Yours Truly.
I was listening to Natasha Beddingfield on my mp3 player and was baffled by the brilliance of her word choice. She is such an inspiring song writer and an amazing singer. Just listening to the words of her songs make me grin and chuckle to myself, which is probably creepy in some ways to the people around me that are watching. What can I say? That woman is a gift from above.
I feel so complete just listening to her songs because she puts so much into her art and it shows. The words she uses are powerful and brilliant, just like I've mentioned already. In my opinion, words are the soul of music and being a bad lyricist, I really struggle to make myself better in that sense. It is really difficult to portray a feeling or a philosophy in words that would cause others to feel the same.
The one thing that makes Natasha a killer song writer is her ability to manipulate words, making them words of wisdom and positivity. She has so much philosophy in her songs which makes them heavy and deep. You could view some of her lyrics in songs like 'Size Matters' or her latest song 'Strip Me'. Catchy words to catch the public but turning them inside out makes them really stick out. This just inspires me to write more songs that can bring positive changes to the world around me. If there was anything that I wanted accomplished in this life, I would want to change the world.
Coming back to Natasha, she is an amazing vocalist altogether. If you have not had a chance to listen to her, I'd encourage you to purchase her songs on Itunes or even check her out on Youtube. She is very inspiring and uplifting in so many ways. The world needs more people like her.
Yours Truly.
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Some Teacher Talk
Hello Travellers!
This evening I had the opportunity of having dinner with a bunch of teachers. There were 6 of us and we were dining in at Secret Recipe. Obviously, at some point, we began discussing the education system in Malaysia.
Suddenly I had a great revelation of thought. (That usually happens and it leads to me writing a blog post) All of a sudden, I thought about how messed up our education system had become. The purpose of its existence, being a means of bringing up a better nourished and prepared generation, is forgotten.
Teachers are pushed to spoon-feed their students only the answers needed to pass the tests given out at the end of every year. Come to think of it, textbooks and revision books are even written to prepare the students with the right sentences to fill in the blanks. Why?
Why not educated the students for life?
It is a sad case that many teachers feel that their sole responsibility is to produce students that can pass the big examinations with flying colours. Here in Malaysia, the SPM and the STPM are why students drive themselves into madness. But why? Yes, I can see how these examinations are important in educating a generation but there is more to life than that. Besides, we can tell that our education system has many flaws and loopholes when we see youngsters failing to apply what they learn in school in real life itself.
So, shouldn't we try changing tactics?
I believe that the education system should be geared towards educating students for what is out there in the world and not the questions that are going to come out on a piece of paper in October. On the other hand, it is great that we have a great foundation in specific fields of study and also expanded our memory power throughout high school. (Because most of high school comprises of memorizing sentences and spitting them out in the SPM) I only wish that the teachers and students were more focussed on the long term goal rather than a silly test. I also think that Malaysians should quit revolving their lives around huge examinations such as the SPM and the STPM because there is more to life than memorizing textbooks and earning money.
Open your eyes. Expand your horizon.
Yours Truly.
This evening I had the opportunity of having dinner with a bunch of teachers. There were 6 of us and we were dining in at Secret Recipe. Obviously, at some point, we began discussing the education system in Malaysia.
Suddenly I had a great revelation of thought. (That usually happens and it leads to me writing a blog post) All of a sudden, I thought about how messed up our education system had become. The purpose of its existence, being a means of bringing up a better nourished and prepared generation, is forgotten.
Teachers are pushed to spoon-feed their students only the answers needed to pass the tests given out at the end of every year. Come to think of it, textbooks and revision books are even written to prepare the students with the right sentences to fill in the blanks. Why?
Why not educated the students for life?
It is a sad case that many teachers feel that their sole responsibility is to produce students that can pass the big examinations with flying colours. Here in Malaysia, the SPM and the STPM are why students drive themselves into madness. But why? Yes, I can see how these examinations are important in educating a generation but there is more to life than that. Besides, we can tell that our education system has many flaws and loopholes when we see youngsters failing to apply what they learn in school in real life itself.
So, shouldn't we try changing tactics?
I believe that the education system should be geared towards educating students for what is out there in the world and not the questions that are going to come out on a piece of paper in October. On the other hand, it is great that we have a great foundation in specific fields of study and also expanded our memory power throughout high school. (Because most of high school comprises of memorizing sentences and spitting them out in the SPM) I only wish that the teachers and students were more focussed on the long term goal rather than a silly test. I also think that Malaysians should quit revolving their lives around huge examinations such as the SPM and the STPM because there is more to life than memorizing textbooks and earning money.
Open your eyes. Expand your horizon.
Yours Truly.
Pain Comes Home Sometimes
Hello Travellers.
I was going to write about depression and how it is possible to battle it till its death but I think that my time has not come just yet.
Pain comes and it goes but I think that the most important aspect of situations like these would be how you face it. As for me, I try my best to be positive about everything. After all, fairy tales do end with good overcoming evil. However, at times, it seems impossible to stay focus on the track as I run towards the finish line.
I cannot say that I do not understand why people say things to bring you down. Nor can I say that I do not understand why defenses rise in fights. I understand fully because I was there. I was once an offender too, out of emotion and negativity. But are all these heartaches worth us all?
Silence can be a virtue while speaking kills us all. Perhaps it was my wrong to want that silence but I do not think that I was wrong to want peace. Hurt? We both do but somehow, we will recover. At least I hope I will move out of the darkness and walk into the light.
The last thing I need is to be spoken to out of spite and hurt.
Face it, we all need time.
But even after time, there is a possibility that I can never look you in the eye.
And maybe, that is alright after all.
Life isn't that bad without you when I've finally figured out that I'm in the only one driving my car.
Yours Truly.
I was going to write about depression and how it is possible to battle it till its death but I think that my time has not come just yet.
Pain comes and it goes but I think that the most important aspect of situations like these would be how you face it. As for me, I try my best to be positive about everything. After all, fairy tales do end with good overcoming evil. However, at times, it seems impossible to stay focus on the track as I run towards the finish line.
I cannot say that I do not understand why people say things to bring you down. Nor can I say that I do not understand why defenses rise in fights. I understand fully because I was there. I was once an offender too, out of emotion and negativity. But are all these heartaches worth us all?
Silence can be a virtue while speaking kills us all. Perhaps it was my wrong to want that silence but I do not think that I was wrong to want peace. Hurt? We both do but somehow, we will recover. At least I hope I will move out of the darkness and walk into the light.
The last thing I need is to be spoken to out of spite and hurt.
Face it, we all need time.
But even after time, there is a possibility that I can never look you in the eye.
And maybe, that is alright after all.
Life isn't that bad without you when I've finally figured out that I'm in the only one driving my car.
Yours Truly.
Friday, February 25, 2011
What do we live for?
Hello Travellers!
Today, while I was riding in the back of a car, I wondered about the existence of mankind. My existence.
It was a random thought. I wondered if the people around me in their cars knew what they were living for.
What do we live for?
The average human life span is very short and if compared to the age of our planet Earth, we are teeny weeny specks that simply exist. Why do we do the things we do?
Take politics for example. What is the purpose of bickering with each other to win the most votes?
Wealth and power is great. But why is it necessary for contentment?
Take war for example. Who invented this distasteful idea? We were all born equally, anyway, with nothing on our skins to mark one against each other. Colour? The world would be dull without colour. Why can we not live in peace within the few years we are given to live by?
Take time for example. Measuring time is great but if we hadn't had 24 hours a day to fill up with useless activity, perhaps we could appreciate life better. Look around you. People exist. Nature exist. The world with its multi colour coat exists. Love exists. Yet, we tire ourselves worrying about money, success and our image in the sight of others.
Where is the kindness we are born with?
Where is the love tattooed in our skins when we came?
Where is the peace that once ruled the Earth?
We hear about peace and the lack thereof every day. But why doesn't anyone do anything about it?
Stop the fighting, stop the war, stop the bloodshed and the doors that open to nothingness.
Do we not see how meaningless life is when all we do is try to find ways to destroy our planet and all that is in it?
'... They may say I'm a dreamer but I'm not the only one. I hope some day they will join us and the world will be as one' ~John Lennon~
Yours Truly.
Today, while I was riding in the back of a car, I wondered about the existence of mankind. My existence.
It was a random thought. I wondered if the people around me in their cars knew what they were living for.
What do we live for?
The average human life span is very short and if compared to the age of our planet Earth, we are teeny weeny specks that simply exist. Why do we do the things we do?
Take politics for example. What is the purpose of bickering with each other to win the most votes?
Wealth and power is great. But why is it necessary for contentment?
Take war for example. Who invented this distasteful idea? We were all born equally, anyway, with nothing on our skins to mark one against each other. Colour? The world would be dull without colour. Why can we not live in peace within the few years we are given to live by?
Take time for example. Measuring time is great but if we hadn't had 24 hours a day to fill up with useless activity, perhaps we could appreciate life better. Look around you. People exist. Nature exist. The world with its multi colour coat exists. Love exists. Yet, we tire ourselves worrying about money, success and our image in the sight of others.
Where is the kindness we are born with?
Where is the love tattooed in our skins when we came?
Where is the peace that once ruled the Earth?
We hear about peace and the lack thereof every day. But why doesn't anyone do anything about it?
Stop the fighting, stop the war, stop the bloodshed and the doors that open to nothingness.
Do we not see how meaningless life is when all we do is try to find ways to destroy our planet and all that is in it?
'... They may say I'm a dreamer but I'm not the only one. I hope some day they will join us and the world will be as one' ~John Lennon~
Yours Truly.
Let's Talk Love
Hello Travellers!
Let's talk love today.
What is love?
Don't we all question its existence or the lack thereof once in awhile?
Well, love itself is a big spectra. Let's bring it down to that kind of love we see on television or movies. The one everyone sings about and brings up every February. The kind of love you feel with that one person that makes your heart beats a thousand times faster and causes you to smile in your sleep. Yes, the mushy kind.
The truth is, I cannot define it.
I may be able to break it apart in words but I still can't put it all together.
I may be able to give you my current philosophies about love and this powerful
As much as it is impossible to do, love is an act of giving, not receiving. Sometimes we get so caught in getting our emotions across that we forget the other person is standing there taking all our arrows. It is understandable. When we hurt, we want people to care for us, to listen to us and to comfort us. However, it doesn't always work that way.
Take for instance, my relationship that had to end. (I can only speak out of what I have experienced) We were fighting for so long that it hurt until I couldn't hurt anymore. There was no where else to go even though I wanted a happy ending. Who doesn't?
So I listened. And even though it hurt to hear the words, I was suffocating him somehow. So I let him go. And surprisingly, I said it with a smile. No, not like an evil smile. But you know what I mean. For the first time, I was merely thinking of his sake and none of mine whatsoever. Not what I wanted or how I feel. Or how I wanted him to see me. I just let them all go and thought that if I was killing him inside, then it would be time for me to leave and time for a new chapter for him.
I had a strange feeling that overtook me and I thought to myself: So, this is how it feels like to love until you let go.
I'm not saying that this is how every relationship should end. No. This is just my philosophy about love at the moment. Love can mean letting go someone you love very much. My philosophy changes everyday though but we learn from our mistakes anyway.
Yes, I do wonder at times if things will go back to how they used to be. But I think that once you move on, you move on. I wonder if time will heal the hurt like they all say.
The truth is only I can find out in time.
So what is love?
Love is giving away your needs for someone who needs more.
Yours Truly.
Let's talk love today.
What is love?
Don't we all question its existence or the lack thereof once in awhile?
Well, love itself is a big spectra. Let's bring it down to that kind of love we see on television or movies. The one everyone sings about and brings up every February. The kind of love you feel with that one person that makes your heart beats a thousand times faster and causes you to smile in your sleep. Yes, the mushy kind.
The truth is, I cannot define it.
I may be able to break it apart in words but I still can't put it all together.
I may be able to give you my current philosophies about love and this powerful
As much as it is impossible to do, love is an act of giving, not receiving. Sometimes we get so caught in getting our emotions across that we forget the other person is standing there taking all our arrows. It is understandable. When we hurt, we want people to care for us, to listen to us and to comfort us. However, it doesn't always work that way.
Take for instance, my relationship that had to end. (I can only speak out of what I have experienced) We were fighting for so long that it hurt until I couldn't hurt anymore. There was no where else to go even though I wanted a happy ending. Who doesn't?So I listened. And even though it hurt to hear the words, I was suffocating him somehow. So I let him go. And surprisingly, I said it with a smile. No, not like an evil smile. But you know what I mean. For the first time, I was merely thinking of his sake and none of mine whatsoever. Not what I wanted or how I feel. Or how I wanted him to see me. I just let them all go and thought that if I was killing him inside, then it would be time for me to leave and time for a new chapter for him.
I had a strange feeling that overtook me and I thought to myself: So, this is how it feels like to love until you let go.
I'm not saying that this is how every relationship should end. No. This is just my philosophy about love at the moment. Love can mean letting go someone you love very much. My philosophy changes everyday though but we learn from our mistakes anyway.
Yes, I do wonder at times if things will go back to how they used to be. But I think that once you move on, you move on. I wonder if time will heal the hurt like they all say.
The truth is only I can find out in time.
So what is love?
Love is giving away your needs for someone who needs more.
Yours Truly.
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Green Leap of Faith
Hello Travellers!
This evening, I would like to salute my fellow Malaysians for respecting Mother Earth and actually taking steps towards becoming a more Eco-friendly community. We were always taught in school to be kind to nature and preserve as much as we could but never had I seen such a big leap of faith implemented in the public.
I was speaking of the 'No Plastic Bag Day' on Saturdays in shopping places. After a little bit of searching, I found that it had all begun with the state of Selangor making Saturday a 'No Plastic Day' at the beginning of this year 2011. That is so cool I think I nearly screamed. Finally, we are making progress instead of just preaching out loud. Obviously, its level of coolness spread out loud and clear infecting other states quickly. Tonight I saw the poster in a local supermarket in my hometown.
I cannot explain how excited I was about the whole ordeal. Truthfully, I was getting tired of the recycling campaigns and the 'Save Mother Earth' sch-pill because sometimes it felt hopeless. It baffles me to watch half the country turn into fanatics about going green while the other spends everyday collecting more plastic in their homes. It almost feels like the only way we could stop this whole dilemma is by shutting down all non Eco-friendly factories or producers.
Nevertheless, I fully support my country's stand in making a difference and I hope that soon, we will have 'No Plastic Bag Day' everyday. That may be an extreme statement but I really am an extremist in every way.
Below is a poster that I borrowed from the internet concerning the effort.
Oh, look! It even says Saturdays AND Thursdays.
It is happening, people. So be prepared!
Yours truly.
This evening, I would like to salute my fellow Malaysians for respecting Mother Earth and actually taking steps towards becoming a more Eco-friendly community. We were always taught in school to be kind to nature and preserve as much as we could but never had I seen such a big leap of faith implemented in the public.
I was speaking of the 'No Plastic Bag Day' on Saturdays in shopping places. After a little bit of searching, I found that it had all begun with the state of Selangor making Saturday a 'No Plastic Day' at the beginning of this year 2011. That is so cool I think I nearly screamed. Finally, we are making progress instead of just preaching out loud. Obviously, its level of coolness spread out loud and clear infecting other states quickly. Tonight I saw the poster in a local supermarket in my hometown.
I cannot explain how excited I was about the whole ordeal. Truthfully, I was getting tired of the recycling campaigns and the 'Save Mother Earth' sch-pill because sometimes it felt hopeless. It baffles me to watch half the country turn into fanatics about going green while the other spends everyday collecting more plastic in their homes. It almost feels like the only way we could stop this whole dilemma is by shutting down all non Eco-friendly factories or producers.
Nevertheless, I fully support my country's stand in making a difference and I hope that soon, we will have 'No Plastic Bag Day' everyday. That may be an extreme statement but I really am an extremist in every way.
Below is a poster that I borrowed from the internet concerning the effort.
Oh, look! It even says Saturdays AND Thursdays.
It is happening, people. So be prepared!
Yours truly.
Bringing Up My Kids
Hello Travellers!
My conversation with my mother this morning led me to think about how people in different cultures bring their children up.
The ironic fact is that as much as Asian parents are strict and killer about their children's whereabouts and academic life, they are also the ones who spoil them most. I know that it seems too ridiculous of a theory but allow me to explain myself.
Here is the typical Asian concept of life. We work hard ever since we mutter our first words and generally, our whole world is built up around success, or rather, achieving it in the long run. Once we achieve a somewhat stable level of success, we build a family to expand the family tree and work hard (again) to pay for our children's education so that they can continue the cycle of life. Now, do not get me wrong. I love my culture thoroughly and would not give it up at any cost. However, it is always good to see things from all perspectives and stand on your own two feet.
Many traditional thinking Malaysians have a lot against the Western culture. They assume too much and make harsh judgments without evidence. Nevertheless, I think that the Westerners have a pretty good system set up and we should at least check it out. Once again, checking it out does not mean that you are bound to it. Every person has the freedom to live their life according to their own standards.
Based upon a few conversations I had while I was in the USA, I have come to realise that many of my American friends take full responsibility over their education and finances. In other words, every semester's tuition fee is coming out of their very own pockets. No mom or dad is going to give them monthly allowances because everything is worked for on their own. They buy their own cars and pay their own bills. Of course, you'd have to take into consideration that not every American child is this way. But a lot of them are.
In my opinion, working hard to support your children is such a sacrificial act of love. In fact, I graduated out of college with my family's help and I love them with all my soul. Nevertheless, I see a point in doing otherwise as well. I love how a child is trained to be responsible over his own life at such a tender age. I believe that to teach you have to first let go.
Besides, I think that it is very sad to see how many kids throw away their chances when they are given some, here. Even with the help of their parents financially, they play around and are never too serious to begin with. Then the truth spits out and they're failing their classes. That is just sad. So why not let them work for their own success and let them own the pride?
So, to cut it all short, I think that it is wise to have both cultures in our lives. Especially when it comes to this area.Sometimes I do wonder how I would bring up my kids in the future. But that is not for me to decide right now!
Let me know what you think. Give me some insights. I hate to be talking to myself all the time so give me a shout!
Yours Truly.
My conversation with my mother this morning led me to think about how people in different cultures bring their children up.
The ironic fact is that as much as Asian parents are strict and killer about their children's whereabouts and academic life, they are also the ones who spoil them most. I know that it seems too ridiculous of a theory but allow me to explain myself.
Here is the typical Asian concept of life. We work hard ever since we mutter our first words and generally, our whole world is built up around success, or rather, achieving it in the long run. Once we achieve a somewhat stable level of success, we build a family to expand the family tree and work hard (again) to pay for our children's education so that they can continue the cycle of life. Now, do not get me wrong. I love my culture thoroughly and would not give it up at any cost. However, it is always good to see things from all perspectives and stand on your own two feet.
Many traditional thinking Malaysians have a lot against the Western culture. They assume too much and make harsh judgments without evidence. Nevertheless, I think that the Westerners have a pretty good system set up and we should at least check it out. Once again, checking it out does not mean that you are bound to it. Every person has the freedom to live their life according to their own standards.
Based upon a few conversations I had while I was in the USA, I have come to realise that many of my American friends take full responsibility over their education and finances. In other words, every semester's tuition fee is coming out of their very own pockets. No mom or dad is going to give them monthly allowances because everything is worked for on their own. They buy their own cars and pay their own bills. Of course, you'd have to take into consideration that not every American child is this way. But a lot of them are.
In my opinion, working hard to support your children is such a sacrificial act of love. In fact, I graduated out of college with my family's help and I love them with all my soul. Nevertheless, I see a point in doing otherwise as well. I love how a child is trained to be responsible over his own life at such a tender age. I believe that to teach you have to first let go.
Besides, I think that it is very sad to see how many kids throw away their chances when they are given some, here. Even with the help of their parents financially, they play around and are never too serious to begin with. Then the truth spits out and they're failing their classes. That is just sad. So why not let them work for their own success and let them own the pride?
So, to cut it all short, I think that it is wise to have both cultures in our lives. Especially when it comes to this area.Sometimes I do wonder how I would bring up my kids in the future. But that is not for me to decide right now!
Let me know what you think. Give me some insights. I hate to be talking to myself all the time so give me a shout!
Yours Truly.
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